Psychologists confirm that feelings motivate a person to do any behavior
Example: If you feel upset and suffocated and find yourself wanting to do anything and this feeling may lead you to act in a way that makes you feel angry at yourself after you finish this behavior, we note from this example that the feeling you feel motivates you to do some behaviors, and in the case if the feeling What you feel negative or uncomfortable Perhaps the behavior you are doing is negative behavior that makes you regret it or feel that you are a bit rushed.
Do you happen to feel a feeling, whether positive or negative, and do behaviors that make you feel uncomfortable?
If your answer is yes
If this talk is important to you and in case it did not happen, I advise you to read to increase your awareness and know how to act correctly.
What are you doing that helps you deal with your feelings correctly that does not affect you and your behavior?
Try to apply this golden rule
Feelings are accepted and not rejected.
5 steps to help you accept your feelings:
1- Accept yourself and your feelings
Search calmly for thoughts that nurture these feelings, rather than rejecting the feeling without understanding the reasons that made you feel it.
2- Avoid judging yourself
For example, saying about yourself, “I am a nervous person.” This judgment you make of yourself is like a drug that does not make you try to change yourself or what is happening with you, and remember that a nervous person is not born, but it is related to the way you deal with yourself and the situations you are exposed to.
3- Identify ideas
In the emotional intelligence program that I offer to individuals, institutions and companies, I help you to know and identify the ideas that cause you to feel a feeling and then I help you evaluate them and know the extent of their validity, I notice the trainees after they finish this exercise in a better condition as a result of their awareness and evaluation of their ideas in a practical and realistic manner, and this makes them accept What they feel, whether positive or negative.
4- Separating feelings from behavior
Feelings are natural and occur within you naturally and automatically, while behavior occurs as a result of your desire to do, and you have the ability to do or not do, so it is important to allow yourself to accept and acknowledge your feelings and accept their presence and not to deny and reject them, while your behaviors are optional and you can control them.
For example, do all the people who feel angry hit, break and insult those who deal with them? The answer is definitely no!
If we find that the feeling of anger is the same and everyone feels it, but the behaviors resulting from this feeling are not the same for everyone.
5- Patience in implementing the steps.
Make sure you are aware of what is going on with you and remember that managing emotions takes patience because it takes time and then you find yourself doing it well.
In the end if you ask yourself can I accept my feelings?
The answer is..yes
I want you to follow these steps and with time you will feel significant progress.
