I believe that freedom is the ability to follow the voice of reason and knowledge in the face of the voice of irrational feelings.
At some point, you may lose the dearest lover or the most important job opportunity, when you unleash the control of your feelings over you without dealing with them and managing them properly in order to avoid what will happen while you are in need.
Have you ever said or heard these sentences to yourself from people close to you:
Why did you rush to make this decision?
– What have you done! It’s not worth it!
What will he do after hearing all this?
– I feel remorse as a result of what happened, I wish I had not done all this!
This is a group of sentences and many more that express the time when you lose control of yourself and cannot manage your feelings, then you act in a way that makes you feel remorse after that, or you may lose a loved one or lose irreplaceable job opportunities.
Remember this golden rule “If you have the skill of managing emotions, avoid yourself from present and future disasters.”
Feelings are the result of your thoughts.
All the feelings you feel are a strong result that expresses all the thoughts inside that have to do with your point of view and the meanings you place on the situation that happened and also the meanings you place on yourself and others.
Therefore, you find that all your thoughts and meanings that you place are positive about yourself and the situations you are exposed to, the more comfortable your feelings are.
The first step in managing emotions
Since thoughts are an essential component of feeling and have a significant impact on the degree of intensity of feelings you feel, the first step in managing feelings is to detect and search for thoughts that nourish your feelings and work to change them.
Here are 8 steps to managing your feelings:
1- Identify the thoughts that caused the feeling.
2- Classifying thoughts into positive and negative.
3- Categorizing ideas to find out what are real ideas and what are hypothetical ideas.
4- Determining the degree of intensity of feeling after classifying thoughts and knowing what is real and what is hypothetical
5- Physiological calming, i.e. practicing some activities that help calm the body.
6- Determine your goal what you want from this situation.
7- What are the practical steps that will help you achieve this goal?
8- What is the first idea you can start with?
